Personal Growth

Marriages are often in crisis due to infidelity. Let me present a common scenario. The husband has been unfaithful to his vows and has had several affairs. The wife is extremely upset and struggles to cope with her feelings of betrayal and anger. The wife has been searching the literature for information about infidelity in…

Couples who make time regularly to visit together tend to have happier relationships than those who do not. That is, if both parties are listening effectively. When the daily talktimes go well there are payoffs in at least four areas: stress reduction, improved self worth, friendship and sexual intimacy. Stress Reduction Many couples will talk…

The high school years can feel like a prolonged episode of “Survivor” for many teens. After feeling inadequate through most of his high school years, one young man likened his high school years to “four years of boot camp”. He constantly struggled with loneliness and fears of rejection. What this young man did not realize…

Gone are the days when intelligence and skill levels solely determine whether our children will land the career choices they want. Many corporations are now hiring people who rate highly on scales of “emotional intelligence,” as well as other measures. They have discovered that having skillful employees does not always get the job done. Many…

Molly’s loss occurred many months ago. She had been feeling much better; yet her turbulent feelings seem to have returned. She is shocked and scared to be feeling so distraught. It seems like she has returned to the emotional state she was in around the time her husband, Felix, died. Felix had been ill for…

amTricia was quiet about it. And because of her secrecy, those around her didn’t notice that she grew more passive and less able to cope with the increasing demands of the many roles she had—a wife, teacher and now young mother, to name a few. Her thoughts had begun to frighten her—she couldn’t remember ever…

If you had a “blue” Christmas and New Year’s you’ll likely feel better after the holidays are over. In contrast, those who were excited about the holidays may find themselves emotionally down after the festivities have ended. The holiday season takes a lot of preparation. Then it is suddenly over and you may think, “Is…